You Are Worth It!
Loving yourself is the best gift you can ever give yourself. When you fall in love with yourself, you take advantage of your self-worth and abilities. Plus, as Rupaul might tell you, “If You Can’t Love Yourself, How The Hell You Going To Love Someone Else!”
Have you ever looked in the mirror and not felt good enough? Or minimized your self-worth due to overindulging in a big meal or missing a workout?
Sometimes we give up dreams, hopes, and love out of fear, negative self-talk, and pain. We rob ourselves of the only thing that no one else can truly give us.
Honestly, without loving yourself first, it’s also hard to fall in love with fitness. Below are some of the tips I’d suggest to first, learn to love yourself; and then learn how to best fall in love with fitness.
Combining the two will have you more focused on being your best for 2022.
As we mentioned above, when you love yourself, you receive more love in return. Also, when you love yourself, you exude confidence and joy, and in return, you’ll attract others with the same zest for living. This improves the quality of your relationships, which improves your life. The cycle is clear – and it all starts with falling in love with yourself. But where does self-love come from? And how can you build it?
Here are 5 tips that I would start with…
1. Put Yourself First
Like oxygen on an airplane, you can’t help others until you help yourself. Set boundaries if you are overextended and find the courage to express your needs. First, let’s talk about why it is so important to be selfish. As author Brené Brown has discovered in her research on wholehearted living, loving yourself more than you love others is the first and most critical step to seeking happiness and fulfillment.
In fact, she says it is impossible to love anyone more than you love yourself. Taking care of yourself is the pathway to fulfillment and to high performance in work and in life. And, just as importantly, it’s a gift to others.
2. Be Kind To Yourself
It seems simple, but it can be one of the hardest acts of self-love to master. We grow up in a society that is always telling us how to look, how to live, and even how to feel. If you’re wondering how to fall in love with yourself, the first step is to give yourself permission to be human. You don’t have to be a super-mom, man of the universe, a fitness model, or a billionaire to be worthy of love. Just be YOU and take care of yourself. Learn More >
3. Practice Self-Care
Self-care and self-love are not the same, but they do go hand in hand. When you love yourself, you treat yourself kindly, both emotionally and physically. You wouldn’t want a person you love to live in a stressed state of mind or to avoid doing things they love – so why allow yourself to do those things? Establishing habits of self-care, like eating healthy and exercising can train your brain to think positively. One of the best ways to love yourself is to build a life you love and also to surround yourself with love. Learn how to love yourself in a relationship so that you can create healthy, long-lasting partnerships. Know that you deserve happiness. A great place to start is joining a community from a Studio or Team Training class at FITNESS PROJECT® which allows you to focus on yourself while building a community (and getting in shape).
4. Find Your Purpose
Finding your purpose is the ultimate way to learn how to fall in love with yourself and determine why you should focus on fitness and being your best. Purpose gives us a reason to get up in the morning and makes us a part of something larger than ourselves. It fulfills several of our 6 Human Needs, including significance, growth, and contribution. But purpose rarely reaches out and knocks on our door. To find your purpose, you need to be honest with yourself. What are you most excited about in your life? What brings you joy? Once you uncover meaning in your life, you’ll start to see the bigger picture – and stop criticizing the smaller things. Plus, you will have a clearer goal in your fitness and health journey.
5. Give Back
The secret to living is giving. Giving back is the ultimate purpose in life and is also the secret to falling in love with yourself: When you have a sense of purpose, you’ll live confidently and stop looking for external affirmation. You know that you have intrinsic worth because you have gifts to give the world. And when you truly believe that you are here for a reason, loving yourself comes naturally. Find your purpose and light a fire of self-love within you, and others will be attracted to the flames. Between Purpose and Giving Back, these are the roots of what FITNESS PROJECT was built on. Learn more about the story of FITNESS PROJECT.
Now, Let’s Think About How To Fall In Love With Fitness.
Does working out feel like a task to tick off your to-do list rather than something you enjoy doing? Don’t worry, we’ve all been there!
Working out can feel a lot easier when motivation is high and you love your fitness experiences, which is often when we are trying something new. When it’s low it can feel like a real challenge sticking to workouts, and in turn, keeping active. While there are times when it’s good to take a break (resting is just as important), regular exercise is really important for our physical and mental health. Enjoying exercise is key in keeping active and reaping the many benefits of exercising. So how can you fall in love with fitness?
Here are 6 tips that I would start with…
1. Get Up & Go
One of the best ways to jumpstart your fitness life (you can fall in love with it later) is to exercise first thing in the morning, right when you wake up. I have a friend who doesn’t even check his phone until after he has trained. Phones can be a huge time-suck and, believe me, 99.9% of the stuff on them can wait. If you get caught up with work or family obligations, the first thing to take the hit will be your training time. Get it done early.
2. Start Small & Work Up From There
A good workout can be as simple as a 15-minute walk on the treadmill or a 10-minute ab routine. Don’t over-commit yourself to an hour-long workout if you’re new to the gym or simply don’t have time in your schedule. Squeeze in whatever you can — at whatever intensity level is right for you — and remember that something is always better than nothing. As you become more comfortable and confident in the gym, you’ll be able to add on a few more minutes or an extra set to each one of your workouts. Also, just as important, celebrate your successes and congratulate yourself each time you add more time or intensity to your workouts…and reap those results. Share your journey on social media – Many of FITNESS PROJECT share their daily journey by tagging their workouts on Instagram with #MyFitnessProject – Try it!
4. Enjoy Your “Me-Time” & Journey
Instead of viewing your workout as a chore or a challenge, appreciate it as an opportunity to fit in some much-needed alone time. Many of us spend all day stressing out about meeting the demands of others and then neglect to meet our own needs as a result! Working out is a way to maintain your own mental and physical health, as well as “unplug” from the rest of the world for a while.
Before you begin a workout, try setting an intention or goal you want to accomplish during your time at the gym — such as overcoming fear by trying a new piece of equipment or simply enjoying the sensation of feeling your heart rate rise on the treadmill. By focusing on something workout-specific, you can clear your mind of other stresses. You’ll thank yourself.
5. Build A Network & Community
People typically have a 75% greater chance of meeting their fitness and health goals when held accountable for them—and one of the best ways to stay accountable? Create or become part of a fitness community to help stay on track. Try taking part in GROUP Fitness classes or join the Studio & Team Training Members at FITNESS PROJECT and find workout buddies that help keep you accountable while having fun and building your relationships.
6. Make It A Habit
Creating and changing habits can take days, weeks, or even months. Whatever you do, DON’T GIVE UP! Set a weekly exercise goal and try to stay on a regular movement regimen for at least 30 days. If you miss a day, don’t sweat it—simply get after it the next morning. Be patient though, you might feel tired and not see or feel any earth-shaking results. Those will come. Trust me.
Last, but not least, REST! You will appreciate yourself and perform better—and be better able to love your workouts—if you give yourself and your muscles a chance to rest.
So once you are doing everything on both lists. The most important takeaway is to never forget how absolutely amazing you are. You won’t forget this if you consistently take these steps, and any others you come up with, to love yourself.
As a part of the journey, have tunnel vision. It’s OK to admire others, but don’t question who you are in light of them. You are wonderful and rare. No one can be you and no one else is perfectly like you. Embrace that. Consistently.
Don’t forget to live every day like you’re falling in love, and that the most important person to fall in love with is YOU.